As we grow up we are often told that focusing on ourselves is selfish, and that we should be giving our time and emotional energy to others instead. However, when we do this without stopping to care for ourselves, we can wear ourselves out quickly and in turn become less able to care for others in the way that we would like to.
A common misconception surrounding self-care is that it has to involve a huge effort, or significant act. Whereas the simple truth is that the most powerful self-care moments can be those in which you are still and silent, giving rest to your body and peace to your mind.
Still think self-care is a selfish notion? I’m going to explain why this isn’t the case with the following five reasons.
1) IT HELPS YOU GET TO KNOW YOURSELF
When you take a few moments each day to focus on yourself, you become better able to know your own mind, and understand your most authentic self. As you work towards allowing the genuine parts of yourself to flourish, you will be able to share this authenticity with others.
2) IT ENCOURAGES ENJOYMENT
Giving yourself the time to discover new parts of yourself, new likes and new passions helps you to discover the things in life that you truly enjoy and wish to give your time to. You can then open up these experiences to other people and invite those around you to share them too.
3) IT PROMPTS SELF-REFLECTION
There are likely aspects of your life that you don’t like but believe to be necessary. When you open your mind to self-care, you will naturally start to reflect on the things that you would like to change. This can quickly lead to you taking action and living the life that you want. This can be incredibly inspirational to those who look up to you, and you could find yourself motivating others to make similar positive changes!
4) IT CONNECTS BODY + MIND
Building the connection between your body and mind is an incredible way to become more aware of yourself and your physical and mental health.
When you pay attention in this way, you will be much more in tune with what your body and mind need, and better able to treat yourself in a way that boosts your wellbeing. It surely then goes without saying that you’ll be full of the energy and enthusiasm to take care of those around you!
5) IT ACKNOWLEDGES GOOD + BAD
If you are someone who believes that certain emotions (anger, sadness, grief, frustration etc) are negative and shouldn’t be given a voice, then you are definitely not alone! This is something that we are conditioned to believe from a young age, but self-care can help to reverse this idea!
Giving yourself the time to explore all of your emotions, and allowing yourself to feel and express any negativity you are experiencing, is key to processing these emotions. When you are able to do this yourself, you will then understand the importance of giving others the support to do the same!