Mother’s Day is a great day for feeling the love and appreciation from our children (hopefully!) Flowers? A card? Brekkie in bed? Maybe even a lunch or dinner out. But what about appreciating and loving ourselves on Mother’s Day? Could we take the opportunity to give ourselves a big Mother’s Day hug and spend a few moments reflecting on what a great job we’re doing?
Motherkind is on a mission this Mother’s Day to inspire mums to take a moment to appreciate themselves and all they do – using the hashtag #mymotherkindday. A recent survey we conducted found that over 90% of mums felt guilt, stress and overwhelm most days. It’s clear us mum’s need to start being kinder to themselves, so let’s start today.
So here are five simple things you can do to give yourself some love this Mother’s Day.
BEGIN THE DAY WITH A GUIDED MEDITATION
I’ve recorded a special Mother’s Day guided meditation, that is only 5 minutes and is specifically designed to help you feel the love from you, to you. You can download it for free here.
Look back on old photos of you when your children were younger or before you were a mum. What do you see? I bet you see the beauty in yourself, maybe even how little you knew yet how great a job you were doing. Find that feeling of love and compassion for yourself and apply it to yourself in this moment.
ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS
We’re so quick to focus on the things we didn’t get right – the time we were late to pick the kids up, the times we shouted or lost our temper. But what about all the amazing things we’ve done – however big or small, from helping our children to read, to cooking them meals every day, to finally getting rid of the dummy or simply being there when they needed us. Negativity Bias is the notion that our brains are wired to focus on the negative, in fact some studies show that we need 3 positive things to counter the impact of one negative thought or action.
So, grab a pen and paper and write down 10 things you’re really proud of in your mothering journey so far, better still discuss it with your children – they might surprise you!
RECONNECT TO A DREAM OF YOURS
As busy mums, it can be impossible to find the time to think about ourselves and what we want. When I work with mums one on one I hear all the time that we’ve lost touch of our own hopes and dreams or even who we are beyond being a mother, wife or employee. So this Mother’s Day, take 10 minutes for yourself and allow yourself to dream….you could use these questions as a prompt:
- What are my hopes and dreams for my life?
- What do I want to have done, learnt or changed by this time next year?
- Taking one dream that excites you the most – what small action could I take this month to make this happen? (It could be as simple as reading a book on the subject, or discussing it with a friend)
Affirmations are a really simple way of reminding yourself throughout the day how great you are and to counter any negative thoughts that may pop up. Choose an affirmation for your Mother’s Day and set an alarm on your phone 3 times throughout the day to remind yourself of it. Bonus points if you say your affirmation to yourself in the mirror – it’s hard, but very powerful.
Some ideas, but feel free to create your own.
- I am enough
- I am doing a great job
- I’m a good mother
- I am love and light
- It’s all happening perfectly
Writing a gratitude list at the end of the day will anchor you in positivity before your head hits the pillow. Try writing at least 10 things you’re grateful for from the day – the more detailed the better and nothing is too big or small.