There are times in our lives we desire something new or different than the current circumstances we find ourselves in. It might be a new partner, a different career path, or a sense of inner peace, and throughout our lives as we grow and our experiences expand we’ll continually look for that next stage of our evolution.
Sometimes, once we realise that we want something different we become frustrated, focusing on what we don’t yet have and not on everything we already do.
The distance between where we are and where we want to be can feel so far that we become despondent about whether the things we desire will ever be ours. But the reality of this distance is only as far away as we perceive it to be. Who is to say that your dream job won’t appear tomorrow? When your mind is open to possibility it is incredible the opportunities that open up for you.
The perceived space between where you are and where you want to be is where the real magic is found. When we start to desire something new or different in our lives we’re simply connecting to our inner compass, which is directing us towards what is truly meant for us. Understanding this should encourage all of the fear, worry or doubt of whether we’ll ever ‘meet the right person’ or ‘have a job you love’ to evaporate. The reason you’ve felt the desire in the first place is because it is meant for you.
The space between what you currently have and acquiring what you want is simply down to your perception of the situation. If you believe true love is for you, if you believe work is meant to feel fun and fulfilling, if you believe the dream house you picture is yours already then you will undoubtedly receive and enjoy all that you desire. However, the way you get to these things is up to you. Whether your desire is materialistic – such as a newhouse, or it’s a new circumstance such as a new job, or new relationship, or something deeper such as a greater sense of self-esteem or inner peace, you can take action from today to move closer to whatever it is you desire.
The ‘space’ between where you are and where you want to be is where you are in control. You are the only person who can choose to embrace it as one of life’s adventures, or to perceive it purely as a frustrating, disappointing time in which you haven’t got something you want.
Small actions everyday over a three-month period, will help you to develop your thinking patterns and beliefs into habits which are taking you closer and closer to where you want to be. When you feel fed up, unhappy or just ready for a change – you can recognise this as life’s way of telling you that you’re ready for the next stage of your growth. We label the feelings that come through these experiences negatively, but they’re simply life’s way of communicating to you that you’re ready for bigger and better things.
If we could flip our thinking from I really, really, really want (whatever your desire is) and instead think – I’m so grateful I have the clarity about what I want, or I’m so grateful for the contrast to teach me what I don’t want, then we’d approach the notion of distance a whole lot differently.
What we ‘want’ in our lives will constantly evolve and change. I understand that if your desire is intense you’re probably thinking about little else, but simply thinking about something you want isn’t going to bring it into your life. Try to see the steps your taking as the journey towards your desires. Tell yourself what you want is already yours and understand that you’re meant to enjoy the process of acquiring it. We so often convince ourselves that once we have what we want life will start. But life is happening right here, right now and it wants you to be a part of it.
The longer we try to avoid the lessons, growth and healing that life sends to us during these perceived gaps between where we are and where we want to be – the longer it will take for our desires to appear in our lives. When we are crystal clear on what we desire and doing everything we know how to, to move towards it we’ll get there – and we’ll get so much more in the process.
If you’re wishing for a new job, chances are you could get a new job next week. But would it be your dream job? What if it took six months, but you embraced this time to develop new skills, which meant when you went to interview you were the perfect person for the role? If you’re looking for a partner you could find someone in a matter of weeks if not days with the instant connection provided by dating apps. But what if the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with walked in after 10 months of you learning to love yourself as you grew through your own journey?
Define exactly what you desire and open yourself up to it coming into your life. Don’t wish for it to happen overnight, because you’ll get what you want – but by letting go of the date of its arrival you’ll get everything else life has in store for you as well. Moving from your current circumstances onto the next thing is life’s opportunity to encourage you to become all you that were meant to be. You’ll get the growth, the lessons and the healing you need so that you can fully embrace the next stage of your life, and once you’ve gained what you set out to, you’ll realise the magic was in the journey and not in the destination you set out to reach all along.