Life these days can be pretty hectic, you’re always on the go, and always in communication with someone. We’re all guilty of it, we’re glued to our phones all day, accessible by other people 24/7. And why wouldn’t we be? All this technology has provided us with wonderful connections to others.
Technology gives us a quick and easy way to stay in touch with everyone, from friends living the other side of the world, family you see only occasionally, to your neighbour organising a coffee date. Dating apps have seen a huge surge in popularity in recent years too, you can have conversations with several strangers at once, without ever having to meet them in real life! Or maybe you’re a blogger and you’re sharing your time with countless other people through your online content and interactions. It can be hard to feel like you’re ever alone, and generally I’d say this is pretty comforting. After all, humans are social creatures!
However, making some time just for you is a really important aspect of overall emotional wellbeing, and one that is often ignored. Making time to centre yourself within your life helps to keep you grounded and present. We all know that self-care is essential for your emotional wellbeing. Maybe you’re already working on staying well-hydrated, exercising, eating well, engaging in some form of meditation or yoga, and spending time with loved ones.
But it’s also really important to carve out some time to just be by ourselves. Experts say that alone time gives our brains a much-needed space to recharge, unwind, and think more deeply. It can also improve our productivity, concentration and problem-solving skills.
We spend so much time catering to others desires and needs, it can be hard to reset the focus onto ourselves and our own wellbeing. We might feel guilty, as though we would selfishly be neglecting our loved ones. Parents are hit the hardest, and moms especially, often spending more hours multitasking several chores at once. But being able to love ourselves allows us to love other people.
So how to find this extra ‘me’ time to improve your wellbeing in an already tightly-packed schedule? It’s the little changes you can make that can make a big difference here. You could try setting your alarm a bit earlier than the rest your household, as willpower is generally stronger in the mornings. If that sounds too difficult, try little things throughout the day; taking your work to a quiet spot or closing your office door, unplugging yourself from your mobile for a few hours (I promise no disaster will befall you if you don’t find out what your ex-colleague’s husband’s holiday snaps look like the second he posts them!). Perhaps you can use your lunch-break to take a walk around the park with yourself, and reconnect with your body and mind.
You can also try blocking out specific times to spend with yourself, with planned activities if you prefer a bit more structure. For example, I like to book a ‘me time date’ every few weeks to read a good book or do something else I enjoy, just for myself.
However hectic our lifestyles, we can make small, positive steps to improving our emotional and mental wellbeing, as well as our productivity and relationships, by taking just a little ‘me’ time. And trust me, we’ll all enjoy it!