When it comes to our training, we all are striving for something, whether that be overall health, weight loss or increasing muscle mass. What is your reason for working out? Usually all these goals we are working towards are aesthetic, or at least physical. However, if you were then asked why you wanted to lose that little bit of weight or gain that bit of muscle mass, what would your answer be? Would you be able to answer that? Would your answer be ‘because I want to look good’? Again, if I asked you why you wanted to look good, would you be able to answer that? When was the last time you even asked yourself why you are going to the gym?
What actually are you after?
Personally, for years I went to the gym because I chased a good body, which I measured aesthetically. From time to time I set the occasional new goal based around achievement, such as being able to perform a move like a pull up or specific number of press ups, but generally speaking my goals were purely aesthetic. On the surface level I wanted to look slim, lean and aesthetic.
But I never quite felt satisfied.
I never quite acknowledged the aesthetic.
I just kept going.
Know what I mean?
I realised after years of chasing ‘looking good to feel good,’ and ‘feeling good, from looking good,’ that maybe, just maybe, I had gone about this the wrong way round. Maybe it was time to look at what I was chasing and go back to the drawing board on why I was doing all of this.
What if we chased purely feeling good? Totally detaching that outcome from anything else: from looking good, having things, being something. What if we just purely looked at it as its own entity. Then what would happen?
‘I want to feel good.’
That became my answer. I want to feel good- feel good in my own skin, feel happy on every level. Really that is what I had been craving when I gave myself the chance to answer a question I had been answering for it. I wasn’t craving the surface level of looking good, I was deeply craving wanting to feel good in my body. Don’t we all want that? When we are craving a ‘good body’ aren’t we really craving feeling good in that body, rather than the body itself?
Could it be that by purely chasing feeling good, I would unlock a whole new mind-set? A mind-set that in fact may have resulted in looking good? A by-product I no longer was obsessed with, or really even cared about? Would it give me a new found mindset as I walked into the gym? Would walking into that gym feeling good and moving from a place of nothing but pure love for myself and drive to want to feel good in fact change the results I saw in the gym? You know what- it did.
By detaching myself from the outcome of what it meant to feel good and only chasing that and only that, the pressure came off, the rules went out of the window and my only goal became doing things that made me feel good. In turn, I went to the gym when I wanted to, how I wanted to and funnily enough – all the things I had been chasing all of those years, they chased me. Because you know what? I decided to feel good, I made that mental change. It was as simple and easy as that.
Chase feeling good, ask yourself what that means and you will notice, it is literally a simple decision.