There are times in life we find ourselves in situations or circumstances we have outgrown and as we begin to look for new opportunities to move forward to something new we become frustrated and fed up with the reality we’re living in.
Perhaps you’re living with family members and you’re ready for a space of your own or maybe you feel you’ve taken your role as far as you can in your current company and you’re ready to move on to your next career challenge. We will all at some point in life find ourselves becoming frustrated at the way things are and beginning to look for things to change.
Of course, we always have a choice to make the changes we think will lead us to greater levels of fulfillment, in every part of our lives. But there are times in which we can enjoy greater gains if we remain within the situations we find ourselves in, even if they feel frustrating. For example – if you want to move out to your own property you might find yourself in a position to save money whilst living with family which will enable you to afford a nicer home once you move out. If you’re ready for the next step in your career, chances are you’re better off gaining all of the skills and experiences you can in your current role, so that the next step you take is even more fulfilling.
Most of us agree that we want to feel that we’re moving forward with our lives, progressing into the things we really want and so these situations where we’re ready for change can feel far more frustrating than they really are.
Have you ever found yourself getting increasingly annoyed by a circumstance that once brought you joy, or at least was one you were satisfied with? I’m sure you have!
When I find myself in these situations, and I have many times throughout my twenties – in my career, in relationships, in my housing situation, I have realised they are there to guide me onto the next BEST part of my life.
Having these ‘in between’ times where we find ourselves ready for the next change in our lives (no matter how big or small it may seem) helps us to clarify exactly what we want. Embrace the things that are making you frustrated – they are guiding you away from what you no longer want. Be super clear on what it is that’s making you unhappy so that you can move into a situation where you no longer experience the same feelings. Are you ready for a new housing situation because you crave more time on your own? Is it that you want the freedom to design a living space exactly to your tastes? What is it about your job that would leave you more fulfilled if it were to change? How can you take what you don’t like about your current role to design what you want in your next?
You don’t have to have found your new home, or have seen the job description of the job you want – you just have to know what it is you don’t want explicitly, so that you can put all of your energy into creating what you do.
And lastly accept that our priorities will always change and something that brings you perfect joy today might evolve and be ready to change in future. That’s one of the greatest joys of life, we’re always shaking off the things we no longer need so that we can step forward into new growth and new adventures.
Make the most of the circumstances you no longer want, they’re you’re compass guiding you to all the possibilities you have ahead.