WHY IS IT SO TRICKY T MAKE FRIENDS AS A GROWN UP?
If you’ve ever watched two toddlers who don’t know each other strike up conversation, you’ll have an idea of just how socially ‘odd’ it seems in terms of our adult norms to actually make friends with new people. Even if you consider yourself extroverted enough that you are able to speak to strangers, bridging the gap between passing conversations and actually having fun together and making a meaningful connection that warrants an exchanging of details is still a wild step. Unfortunately, the little ones do have it right, the leap from stranger to friend does require some risk and faith that many of us aren’t prepared to do, at least without a few drinks and dim lighting.
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS WHEN YOU’VE BECOME A PARENT
It’s so important that you don’t do this chapter of your life alone, often friends we already have aren’t in sync perfectly regarding starting a new family and so this will mean having to make new friends that are in this scary ‘baby world’ of sleepless nights and not really knowing what on earth you’re doing. Joining an NCT class is absolutely the perfect solution to making new friends as a new parent, I can’t recommend these groups enough and know many people that have taken so much support from this new support network.
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS WHEN YOU’RE SINGLE
Dating apps have finally jumped on this issue and now many of the popular ones have a version of swiping or match making specifically designed just for making friends! We now live in a world where people move cities or countries fairly frequently and technology is starting to acknowledge and catch up with the fact that many of us need to find ways to connect with new people easily.
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AS A COUPLE
If you have a shared interest such as climbing or visiting a certain part of the world there are always groups that you both can join. Facebook and other social platforms often hold the key to connecting with these groups in a safe and manageable way that doesn’t involve actually approaching strangers which can seem very daunting.
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS WHEN YOU’VE MOVED TO A NEW AREA
Check to see if any of your existing friends know of anyone in your new area that they can connect you with. Even posting about it on social media may lead to ‘friending’ someone and seeing if going for a coffee looks like it might be fun. Going to classes is also helpful for making new friends but it may require you to be somewhat bold in approaching someone so be prepared. Work can also be helpful for setting up a new social life, suggesting out of work drinks can give you an opportunity to connect to people on a different level. Volunteering is also something to look into as it is a nice way to get involved with the community.