So the saying goes, your vibe attracts your tribe, but could it actually be the opposite? Could it in fact be your TRIBE that are affecting your vibe, your confidence, your self-worth?
We picked Psychotherapeutic Counsellor Chanelle Sowden’s brain—
‘Jim Rohn has wisely said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” More often than not the people we call our friends and spend our precious time with are based more on proximity than anything else and yet the impact they have on us over the years can have huge influence regarding the direction and quality of our life.’
So if your closest pals are in fact consciously or unconsciously triggering you in some shape or form, chances are they are playing a vital role in how you feel about yourself.
Confidence coach Amy Rushworth makes a point to say that ‘your relationships nourish your health and give you energy in the same way food, water or exercise does. The people in your circle have the potential to lift your energy or drain it.”
The journey to self-worth can be tough— it’s something that is widely spoken about these days, and for good reason, but much harder to put in to practice.
Amy affirms that ‘if we want to call in confidence and self-worth, our inner circle and connection in our relationships is paramount. As human beings we naturally compare and emulate the behaviours and energy of those around us. We take on the energy of those around us. That energy can super-charge our self-worth and boost our confidence, or it can lower our emotional frequency and rob us of our authenticity. One of the most powerful ways we can honour ourselves is by choosing to embrace the relationships that feel real and connected.’
As Chanelle notes, we should “make a point of deliberately seeking out and surrounding ourselves with people who are honest, supportive, non judgemental and motivated to take positive action in their own lives”.
So if you do one thing today, step back, zoom out and check in with the nearest and dearest relationships in your life. Are they feeding your sense of self-worth in a positive way, or are they, as Amy says, robbing you of it?
Take time to figure out what your triggers are— are you feeling constantly low about yourself when around your friends? This shouldn’t be the case. Your closest pals should be the ones who bring you UP.
