The way we feel about our bodies has a direct correlation with how we treat and speak to it on the daily, which in turn shapes our relationship with ourselves. So it’s no wonder as the themes of self-care and self-love comes into full bloom the year that body confidence is much talked about.
It’s something many women- and men- have begun to speak more openly about. Stories of struggles, journeys and ups + downs. Wherever you find yourself on the spectrum is MORE than ok. Life ebbs and flows and somewhere along the way we finally come into ourselves, recognise our power and come to truly and utterly fall in love with who we are. A journey it may be, but there’s no reason we can’t give ourselves a boost on the path to self-love…
Before we get into the nitty gritty, it’s important that you consider these questions: Are you happy with all aspects of your life? Are you totally fulfilled? Are you living your wildest dreams, before people told you it wasn’t ‘realistic’? Do you feel like you can be the best in the world at what you love & do?
Consider your responses, and then reflect on the below.
1.THERE IS ONLY ONE YOU
Start to realise there is only, ONE of you in the whole wide world, you cannot be replicated. We live in a world of nearly 8 billion people and there is enough room for everyone to be themselves & shine, that includes you! The energy that you have and what you create, no one else can do it like you.
2.DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE
Realise your strengths and work on them. This might sound incredible obvious, but the amount of people that see someone else’s work or success and wants that end result, so they start following that persons foot steps. However, those footsteps may be totally out of alignment with the person that’s looking for success. Look at what you love and look at what you’re good at, focus on the journey not the destination and you will learn your purpose.
3. DON’T CHANGE SHAPE FOR ANYONE
Can a triangle fit into a circle? Nope. The beauty of you and what you have to offer, is that no one else has what you have. Quite often when you’re admiring someone else and feeling bad about yourself, people will be admiring you, you just don’t realise it.
4. NURTURE YOUR INNER CHILD
Would you criticise your child or younger self? No. So why the heck are you being so mean to yourself! If you’re having mean or negative thoughts about yourselves, you’re giving others permission to do he same to do. I always compare self-love and confidence to going to a gym. If someone is really skinny and wants to bulk up, or really overweight and wants to get slim, they have a process to go through and it’s not overnight. Understand that you can feel good about yourself and love yourself, but things can take time. Patience.
5.WRITE DOWN WHAT YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF
Even if you can only write one or two things, start! This needs to be part of your daily routine, like brushing your teeth! Put a positive with every negative, for e.g – if you don’t like your legs, be grateful that you have legs to walk you through life, some people don’t have them and there is always someone worse off. Gratitude is more powerful than you realise. The list can be about anything from personality traits to physical appearance and beyond- it doesn’t matter. Just write stuff down daily!
6.BE NICE TO YOURSELF
Rather than look in the mirror and think ‘omg I look awful’ or see a photo and head to photoshop, be like ‘damnnnn’. I know the first few times this can be utterly cringe worthy and you may feel like ‘no way, I’m not doing this, this is nonsense’. Trust me, do it. Words are powerful and so are thoughts. If you think negatively about yourself, that’s what you will be welcoming into your life. Also remember, being nice to yourself or giving yourself a compliment isn’t being ‘big headed’, it’s important to love yourself.
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7. KEEP NEGATIVE VIBES OUT OF YOUR TRIBE!!
People are like sponges and absorb things just like sponges. Surround yourself with positive people. Don’t care what people think or societies opinion of you. Do what makes you happy, do things that you love and feel good. There will always be someone that has an issue with what you’re doing, so you have a choice; be dictated by low self esteem & jealousy or be the badass that you are!