From healing your relationship with your body, loving yourself unconditionally without judgment or comparison to surrounding yourself with people that only life you HIGHER, here are my 7 habits, practices and mindsets to help you on your path to your most confident self.
FORGIVE YOUR PAST SELF
You are not a problem, you are not broken, you do not need fixing. Speak to yourself lovingly and from a place of understanding. Commit to being kinder to yourself. The words you speak to yourself in your own mind, they matter. Try to see your past mistakes as lessons, learn from them and move on with your life — without passing judgement on yourself. Ask yourself with every thought: “Is this how I would speak to someone I love?”
LET GO OF ‘PERFECTION’
If you’re putting off doing anything in your life because your body isn’t ‘perfect’ yet or you don’t have the ‘perfect’ skill set, it’s time to stop waiting and start NOW. When you drop the idea of perfection, you can finally start embracing who you really are. Happiness is not a destination, but a journey and a practice.
END THE COMPARISON GAME
The more you compare yourself, the unhappier you are likely to be. Unfollow any accounts on social media that make you feel like you’re not enough. And of course, the more you tell yourself you’re not good enough, the more you start to believe your own story. You will never look like the model in the magazine — half the time, not even the model does! Instead, own your individuality and unique beauty. Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way.
YOUR VIBE ATTRACTS YOUR TRIBE (+ VICE VERSA!)
Don’t allow yourself to be dragged down by any negative people around you; try to surround yourself with other high vibe women on the same path as you. Detox your friendship circle (and your social media feed!) and only invite people in that lift you up and bring positivity, joy and empowerment to your life. Rather than try and change yourself to be everyone’s cup of tea, be YOURSELF and the right people will be attracted to you.
MAKE PEACE WITH REJECTION
Dealing with rejection is part and parcel of the world we live in — your power is in your reaction. After all, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Try to develop an attitude of: if they like me, great – if they don’t, then that’s also great because now we know we aren’t a great match! And that’s totally okay. Simply shrug it off, say thank you kindly and go home a little wiser and happy that you TRIED. That particular opportunity may not have been the right fit for you, but there’s likely something even better waiting just around the corner!
LEAN TO LOVE THE SKIN YOU’RE IN
And that starts by throwing away your scales! Wear clothes you feel comfortable and beautiful in, take yourself for a much-needed massage, spend more time naked! Get to know your body and learn to love every bit of it. True body confidence comes from within, so instead of putting all of the emphasis on your reflection, celebrate what your body is carrying — your beautiful soul. When you are empowered by the choices you are making for your body, confidence will ooze out of you.
FILL YOURSELF UP WITH THE THINGS YOU LOVE
Your life is YOURS, no-one else’s. And you can do whatever you want with it! Whatever it is that lights you up, make space for it! Be who you want to be. The truth is: people will come and go from your life — you are the only one in it until the end, so it’s up to you how you want it to be. Once you realise you have all of the tools you need inside of yourself already, you can start trusting your inner voice. Once you stop looking for validation outside of yourself, you can finally begin to embrace your uniqueness and live a life that you love.